A Tough Day

Being away from your penguin is tough. Invariably there will be terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days.


But.


There is something good that comes out of those terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. They bring you closer together.


Some days, David strengthens me. Other days I bolster him up. And on days like today, we both run on empty and our raw selves start to show.


Even those "I got nothin'" days, I am filled with the assurance that we are right for one another. David is never freaked out when I start to cry over a conflict with a roommate. He doesn't bolt when I tell him I just can't figure out what's wrong. He doesn't judge me when I am in a funk. He listens, tries to understand, tells me it's okay to cry, and best of all, says "I love you."


I have come to believe that a celestial marriage isn't about having great days every day...it's more about how you deal with the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. If you rely on one another and trust one another, then it will really be a good day in disguise; you will realize that you love all of one another...even the emotional, irrational, unstable parts.


I do trust David. I trust that when I call him in tears that he will pick up and tell me that it's okay to cry.


I hope he knows that I will do the same and than I will cry with him.


I will say though, I look forward to the times when we can hold each other on those terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. Sometimes a "phone hug" just doesn't quite cut it.


I am reminded of this scripture:


1 Thessalonians Chapter 5:
11 Wherefore ^acomfort yourselves together, and ^bedify one another, even as also ye do.


Comfort here means "exhort, console, or encourage. David is such a comfort to me. He is constantly consoling my tender heart and encouraging me to achieve my goals. When I am around him I feel like I can do anything. I hope that I am the same kind of support to him.


I am so grateful that David and I have a real love. "Real" means understanding the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or may be thought to be. Real love understands that people are imperfect, fallible. However, real love is loving a person not in SPITE of those flaws, but BECAUSE of them.


It's real, babe.